Welcome to the final chapter of the 25 most popular Hinge Prompts (according to Hinge) and how to answer them. You can check out our in-depth analysis of Hinge’s prompts 1-20:
In the last chapter, we went through 16-20 of the list of prompts that Hinge says get the most conversation started. Today, we are going to finish up Hinge’s list of prompts that are most likely to help you start a conversation with 21-25.
Hinge Prompt #21: All I Ask Is You
This prompt falls into a similar category with prompts like I’ll Fall For You If. It is a great way to start laying out details about what you are looking for in a partner, but it can easily shift into you accidentally showing off your emotional baggage and insecurities if you aren’t careful.
DO: Keep it light. Think about positive things you want in a relationship and focus on them, but try not to focus on things that are generally accepted as cornerstones of a good relationship. This can be a great prompt to talk about some of your traits that you want to make sure they’d be OK with.
DON’T: Focus on concerns based on past relationships. If you use this prompt to try and make sure you don’t end up with the same negative experiences that you’ve experienced in the past, you are going to scare away the good people and attract the same disasters you’ve already been through. Also, don’t use this prompt to complain about physical appearance. I’ve seen people answer this prompt with things like “All I ask is you stay in good shape,” or even “All I ask is you clip your toenails.” While they are both valid requests, they are not appropriate for your dating profile.
Hinge Prompt #22: I’ll Fall For You If
This can be the perfect prompt for people who want to talk about something unique that they appreciate in a potential new partner. However, make sure that you only pick one prompt that is exclusively focused on what you want. You only get three prompts. A good mix should either be to have two prompts about you and one about what you want, or to have one prompt about you, one prompt about what you want, and one prompt that talks about both of you together.
DO: Think about positive things you admire about people and things people do that impress you. I’m not talking about the basics like honesty or loyalty. I’m talking about when someone stops to pet every dog at the farmer’s market, goes out of their way to open the door for people when they are walking into a store, or always looks for something they’ve never tried before on the menu instead of ordering the same dish over and over.
DON’T: Focus on looks or your emotional wishlist. I’ve seen countless people answer this prompt with things like “I’ll fall for you if you are tall,” or “I’ll fall for you if you have a great smile.” Making your answer about the physical sends the message that you care more about the outside than the inside. Attraction goes without saying in online dating. If you aren’t attracted to someone, you aren’t going to message them or swipe on them. That means you don’t have to waste time talking about them. Likewise, if you focus on things like “I’ll fall for you if you are honest,” or “I’ll fall for you if you are a good communicator.” It just sounds like you are complaining about your ex.
Hinge Prompt #23: I Won’t Shut Up About
This prompt is not for everyone. A lot of people don’t have something they are so passionate about that they won’t shut up about it. There are also people who confuse being passionate about something with being enveloped by it. I’ve had several people talk to me about this prompt who want to talk about how they won’t shut up about their job. Your relationship is the part of your life where your job isn’t involved. Regardless of whether you love your job or hate it, it’s not going to make for a good, ongoing conversation with someone.
DO: Think about your passions, or causes that you are involved in. Focus on the positive. If you love Star Wars enough that you won’t shut up about it, that’s fine. However, if you love Star Wars, but you can’t shut up about how much you have hated everything since Disney bought it, you are setting a negative tone.
DON’T: Talk about politics. Please. If you are passionate enough that you feel like politics is something you won’t shut up about, you are going to send up a lot of red flags for people. This even includes people who share your ideological beliefs. We are surrounded by politics, especially right now. The last thing someone wants to do is curl up with you on the sofa at the end of the day and talk about the election.
Hinge Prompt #24: The One Thing You Should Know About Me
This prompt can be a bit of a minefield. Interestingly, it is something I ask most of my clients during our consultation-based profile writing sessions. However, I very rarely use the answer I get in the profile. The challenge of this profile is that you want to give people a little better window into your life without turning it into a sales pitch or an airing of your insecurities.
DO: Think about the things in your life that make you a little bit more unique. Do you have a sense of humor that a lot of people around you don’t get? This could be the place to mention it in your profile. Do you have a strong relationship with your faith? This is the perfect spot. It can be perfect for a lot of things. It can even work as a way to let people know that you are up every day before the sun (that will be a dealbreaker for some people). Just make sure that you talk about it without becoming defensive or standoffish.
DON’T: Use this as a way to warn people about things that you are concerned about. There are a lot of people who feel the need to tell people that they are a little shy when you first meet them. This isn’t an uncommon trait. A lot of people are a little bit shy, or a little anxious about meeting new people. However, when you go out of your way to mention it, you are prepping people for a worst-case scenario. On the opposite side of things, you don’t want to use this prompt as a way to pump yourself up. If you answer this prompt with something like “The one thing you should know about me is that once you meet me, you’ll fall in love with me,” people are not going to see it as a cute flirtation. They’ll see it as an overblown ego. Anytime you spend time trying to sell yourself, you make yourself less attractive. People don’t want a sales pitch, they want to feel a connection.
Hinge Prompt #25: I Bet You Can’t
There are a lot of similarities between this prompt and “First Round Is On Me.” The main difference is that this one is a little more aggressive and antagonistic (in a playful way). While the first one is is saying – If you can do this, I’ll buy you a drink, the second one is more of a direct challenge. If that’s not something you would do in real life, this isn’t the prompt for you.
DO: Focus on playful challenges. This isn’t a life or death challenge with the fate of the world depending on it. This is supposed to be fun. Think about things you like, but think it might be rare for your potential partner may be into. For example, my wife is a huge fan of the Lord of the Rings movie. If she were to choose this prompt for a Hinge profile, she would probably write something like “I bet you can’t name every member of the Fellowship.” Someone into sports might ask, “I bet you can’t beat me in a game of horse.” Meanwhile, someone who loves spicy food might ask, “I bet you can’t handle The Last Dab Challenge without crying.” There is an unlimited number of challenges you can lay out here. Just make sure it matters to you.
DON’T: Use this prompt if you are also using “First round is on me.” The two of them are too similar and will feel redundant. Also, don’t turn this prompt into a cheesy attempt to get the other person to contact you. Answers like “I bet you can’t make me laugh,” “I bet you can’t guess my favorite burger spot,” or “I bet you can’t guess what number I’m thinking of” are unimaginative and feel like old-school, cheesy bar pickup lines. Let them stay in the 80s, where they belong.
We’ve covered the 25 best prompts that Hinge has to offer, but there are more than 100 others offered on the app. If none of these feel right to you, check out the others. Any prompt can be great if you have something to say that can help jumpstart a conversation. It doesn’t have to be funny or clever, and it shouldn’t look like you are trying to convince people to like you. It just needs to be honest, light-hearted, and geared towards starting a conversation.
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